Enjoy Reading with your Child

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Reading is a key ingredient in a good language-learning environment for babies and very young children as well as preschoolers, and reading with children from an early age helps to foster a habit for life with lifelong benefits. Moreover,

 

The reading of picture books with your child is one of the most important and enjoyable ways of spending time together. The combination of pictures and words is a close relationship, which echoes the relationship between parent and child.

Anthony Browne, Children’s Laureate 2009-11

 

As part of their “Enjoy Reading” campaign, Pearson have produced a helpful, colourful and easy-to-read guide, Reading with your Child, freely downloadable in 26 languages. In addition to addressing a number of common questions, such as What do I do if my child picks a book that is too hard? and How can I find the right book?, it offers some useful tips to explore the stories and make them come alive. (See also, Dino Lingo Parents Guide.)

 

With a picture book the child looks at the pictures while the adult reads the text. This leads to surprising and stimulating shared conversations between the two, as text and pictures are explored and pored over. In the best picture books there is often a mysterious gap between the pictures and the words, a gap that is filled by the child’s imagination.

Anthony Browne

 

There is also a more in-depth “Enjoy Reading guide for parents” that covers key points from why reading is important and the difference we can make as parents to what and how to read with babies and children. It also includes top tips on phonics and helpful suggestions for children who don’t seem to like reading. Here are their Top 10 tips to help children enjoy reading based on feedback from experts and authors:

1. Make books part of your family life – Always have books around so that you and your children are ready to read whenever there’s a chance.

 

2. Join your local library – Get your child a library card. You’ll find the latest videogames, blu-rays and DVDs, plus tons and tons of fantastic books. Allow them to pick their own books, encouraging their own interests.

 

3. Match their interests – Help them find the right book – it doesn’t matter if it’s fiction, poetry, comic books or non-fiction.

 

4. All reading is good – Don’t discount non-fiction, comics, graphic novels, magazines and leaflets. Reading is reading and it is all good.

 

5. Get comfortable! – Snuggle up somewhere warm and cosy with your child, either in bed, on a beanbag or on the sofa, or make sure they have somewhere comfy when reading alone.

 

6. Ask questions – To keep them interested in the story, ask your child questions as you read such as, ‘What do you think will happen next?’ or ‘Where did we get to last night? Can you remember what had happened already?’

 

7. Read whenever you get the chance – Bring along a book or magazine for any time your child has to wait, such as at a doctor’s surgery.

 

8. Read again and again – Encourage your child to re-read favourite books and poems. Re-reading helps to build up fluency and confidence.

 

9. Bedtime stories – Regularly read with your child or children at bedtime. It’s a great way to end the day and to spend valuable time with your child.

 

10. Rhyme and repetition – Books and poems which include rhyme and repetition are great for encouraging your child or children to join in and remember the words.

 

And beyond what we do as parents, sharing these with other family members, caregivers, etc. (and showing them how to use Dino Lingo) can not only help to make reading a greater part of your child’s life, but also widen the sphere of experience and enjoyment for everyone.

 

“A reader lives a thousand lives before he dies”, said Jojen.

The man who never reads lives only one.

George R. R. Martin, A Dance with Dragons

Guest authored by Philip Shigeo Brown

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Conflict in Mixed Families and Conflict Resolution with Foreign Partners

How to deal with conflict in mixed marriages
  1. •Don’t give examples from your own country
  2. •Apologize even if it means you’ll lose the face
  3. •Never use generalizations about his/her country/culture/family even if he/she previously accepted that (e.g. we,…s usually are not punctual)
  4. •Don’t touch and don’t get so close, different cultures have different use of proximity
  5. •Check your voice and make sure you’re not too loud according to your spouse’s culture
  6. •Don’t talk about the past that (naturally) cannot be changed
  7. •Don’t say it was a misunderstanding or a language problem
  8. •Try to think like a person from his/her culture (force yourself)
  9. •Try to find something (even 1%) of what he/she says and agree with it 100%
  10. •Don’t interrupt and listen very carefully
  11. •Rephrase his/her problem in your own words
  12. •Never try to WIN the argument (when you win the argument, relationship loses)
  13. •Instead of YOU statements try to make I statements
  14. •Think about alternative solutions to the problem
  15. •State that you understand the other side and you are willing to solve the problem
  16. •Remember some people overreact when they lose face (e.g. when their mistake is revealed)
  17. •Remember different cultures have different values (e.g. yes, in some cultures work/responsibility comes before family)
  18. •Remember most conflicts arise because one side misinterprets the other side’s true intention
  19. •Remember, sometimes it might be a gender difference issue (men and women think differently) or a personality issue (introverts and extroverts act differently) rather than a cultural issue.
  20. •Don’t avoid conflict see it as an opportunity to strengthen your relationship.

 

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Communication in Mixed Families: How to Communicate with A Foreign Partner

  1. •Both partners should be more interested in giving than receiving.
  2. •There should be at least one language in which both partners are fluent.
  3. •Partners should never “assume” anything just because it’s common sense in their own culture.

 

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Problems Children Face in Mixed Families: Intermarrying and Children

  1. •Children do not really know their grandparents ancestors.
  2. •Family members, such as grandparents and cousins, are not able to communicate well with the children (TCK).
  3. •One side of the  family does not celebrate  host culture’s holidays and observe its traditions.
  4. •One side of the family has to explain jokes and/or ask for them to be explained.
  5. •Children grow up with a different set of cultural assumptions than parents.
  6. •One side of the family experiences discrimination because of the ethnicity of his/her spouse.
  7. •Children grow up with gender roles parents do not approve of.

 

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Marry a foreigner: 20 Reasons Why Marrying a Foreigner – Intermarriage is a Good Choice

-Enjoy different dishes all the time

When your partner is a foreigner of course he/she will cook for you (at least occasionally) and you’ll get to eat the real food from that real cuisine. It’s not like going to an ethnic restaurant in your country where the food is adjusted to and mixed with the local food.
-Have a bilingual/trilingual child.
You don’t have to worry about sending your child to a private school, a foreign partner will do the trick. Though if not done properly most of the time kids turn to be passive speakers (understands the language but cannot speak). I wrote tri-lingual above because mixed families tend to live in a third country quite often.
-Become bilingual
You, yourself can become bilingual by just practicing with your partner or extended family members and in-laws. Most of the time you have to :)
-Have 2 passports
Yes, this is possible in many countries even if you don’t reside in your partner’s country all the time.
-Have 2 weddings
Most of the time one side of the family cannot come to your wedding and you end up having two separate wedding ceremonies to make everyone happy.
-Visit different places all the time.
Having a foreign partner means you’ll get to travel to where he/she’s originally from and where his/her friends, relatives and family members live. Most importantly you will enjoy him/her guiding you as a local so you see the best places and never get treated like a tourist in his/her country.
-Life full of surprises.
If you watched the movie my big fat Greek wedding, you’d know what I mean. You will always (actually sometimes) encounter situations that will surprise you instead of experiencing the same routines in domestic marriages.
-Know more people and get connected
To get to know people always mean more opportunities and more chances. If you remember the law of “6-degrees of separation” you’d notice that getting married to a foreigner connects you to additional hundreds, if not thousands of people.
-Grass is greener on the other side
This might sound a bit cheesy but you might look a lot more attractive to someone from a different culture simply because you look different or unique. The same thing applies to your partner; you will find him/her more attractive than an avg. person in your culture.
-Cuter kids
This is not scientifically tested but I am sure you heard from many that mixed couples’ children tend to be good looking or at least better looking than the parents themselves :)
-Enjoy different festivals & holidays
Since all cultures have special festivals and holidays you’ll get to learn about and enjoy various celebrations. There will be a spirit of celebration in your house throughout the year :)
-Have an excuse to be a foreigner when you make a mistake
Your in-laws will excuse you for being naive or a foreigner even if the mistake you make is just commonsense (e.g. forgetting to prepare dishes for guests)
-Have stories to tell your folks all the time
Since everything you’ll experience (at least at the beginning of your marriage) will be “newsworthy” :) everyone from your own family will be so excited to hear your stories.
-Become a cross-culturally competent and flexible thinker
Different culture or means a different way of thinking (different values, different beliefs, different lifestyles and so on). By living together with someone from a different culture will empower you to approach issues from different point of views (e.g. if you are an American and your client from overseas pressures you, you’d know how to take a different perspective)

Realize and appreciate the uniqueness of your own culture
There’s a saying goes like “fish is the last to discover water.” That is, when you live with a person from a different culture you can better understand the subtleties in your own culture.

Give a real reason to your parents to travel overseas.
Yes, perhaps your folks,  just like mines, resist to travel overseas and might not even have a passport. Once you marry a foreigner, they are going to have to go to a country where your partner is from.

Easy going Partner
If someone from a different culture wants to marry you, that means he/she prefers you over someone from his/her own culture (unless he/she has expired visa or ran out of money). This also means, he/she is not a typical representative of his own culture but rather someone who has a global mindset and easy to get along with.

Getting Rid of Stereotypes
Mixed marriage means you live with a person who has a different ethnicity/nation and race most of the time. Not only you but also your frinds & family will be exposed to this new member of the family and understand that the stereotypical image in their minds is not true.

Expression on your friends face
You will really enjoy seeing the expression on your friends face when you tell them that you are engaged to a foreigner J

Mixed world is a better place

It is…

6 Scientific reasons why people intermarry

WHY some people don’t want to marry foreigners?

 

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Marry a foreigner: Why Some people Don’t Want to Marry a Foreigner


  1. Since many activities in marriage are joint, such as the raising of children, the purchase of a house and other consumer durables, and the spending of leisure time, dissimilarity in taste would complicate these shared activities.
  2. People prefer to marry someone who has similar cultural resources because this enables them to develop a common life- style in marriage that produces social confirmation and affection. (Taken from Kalmijn 1998).
  3. Differences might be seen unique or cute but actually cause big problems in the long run.
  4. The person you are marrying to might not be a good representative of his/her culture (e.g. the person might be secular while his/her family can still be very conservative)
  5. Understanding and appreciating a culture is different from internalizing it.
  6. Extended families might be as important as spouses in some cultures.
  7. Face saving and gender roles might be too hard to overcome.

 

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Marrying a Foreigner: Mixed Marriages and 6 Scientific Reasons Why People Marry Foreigners

Genetic Variation: Species tend to out-breed in order to strengthen their genetic immunization. For instance there are certain diseases which are found among Asians or Europens, when a Erupoean and an Asian have a baby it’s possible that the baby is less likely to get both of the diseases.

Davis & Merton Hypothesis (1941) members of ethnic groups whose prestige in society is low would have better chances of marrying outside their group if they offered a high socioeconomic status in re-turn.

By-product Hypothesis (Kennedy,1944) : Intermarriage is more common between groups who have the same faith

Claude Levi Strauss (1949) Alliance Theory:  Small groups must force their members to marry outside so as to build alliances with other groups.

Self Expansion Theory (Aron & Aron, 1986). The primary human motivation is to grow and expand the self. Individuals seek to expand the self in many ways including establishing relationships with others. According to this view, romantic relationships start when an individual perceives another person as an opportunity for rapid self-expansion. Aron and Aron (1986) wrote that “The self is expanded by whatever expands its potential efficacy-that is, by knowledge and the resources to apply knowledge.  Forming a relationship with another person obviously offers knowledge and resources in abundance.” (p,28)

Future Generations: In-termarriage decreases the salience of cultural distinctions in future generations because the children of mixed marriages are less likely to identify themselves with a single group by intermarrying, in-dividuals may lose the negative attitudes they have toward other groups. (Kalmjin, 1998)

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